Ok so I don't watch the MTV show... ok truth be told I watched 2 of them but this post isn't about some MTV show. Its about something my bf said to me 2 weeks ago that I just remembered today... and I remembered it because I was labelling previous posts in preparation for publicizing my blog. I labelled my first post "Compassion" and this is what I remembered....
Scene: BF and I walking into Xmas Tree Shop on a FREEZING Saturday...
Me: I think I should volunteer or something
BF: Huh?
Me: Well you know, yesterday it was so freaking cold out and I had to wait for the bus an extra 30 minutes due to traffic and an accident and I didn't have my scarf... just gloves and it was so freaking cold.
BF interrupting: And you had your coat
Me: Um yeah obviously. Anyway I seriously thought I'd have frostbite when I finally got home. And I didn't have my cell so I couldn't call you and it was so brutal.
Sidenote: Due to job change, I didn't have a cell for awhile and it was so annoying. But back to compassion
BF: Yeah so what does this have to do with volunteering?
Me: Yeah well I was thinking about how I was that cold but I was only out there for 30 minutes. Imagine homeless people. I don't know. I think I should volunteer at a soup kitchen or handing out blankets.
Its quiet for a few minutes... ok seconds... if it had been minutes I would have started talking again
BF: Um hun, don't take this the wrong way but I think you are meant to help people from afar.
Me: What does that mean? You think I can't be compassionate.
BF: Remember when we were in NY and you could smell every odor for blocks before me and you kept complaining about it.
Me: Yeah it was disgusting,I have a very sensitive nose.
BF: And remember how you get uncomfy if dirty people are near you
Me: Um yeah, it grosses me out. I mean come on, shower already
BF: Yeah homeless people don't have a place to shower and will probably smell. You won't last very long at all.
Quiet again...
Me: Yeah but remember the time after the kickball game when I took all the leftover food (company ordered for like 200 and 20 played) and I brought it to the homeless people by the Garden because a shelter wouldn't take it bc it was already opened
BF: Yes that was very nice of you and I know you care but you couldn't deal with any smells.
Me: But I care, I want to help.
BF: I know you do and you can. Fundraise, spread the word, collect goods, donate money, volunteer with kids- you love that stuff. But a soup kitchen, I think not.
Silence again...
Me: So I probably wouldn't last on that MTV show Exiled either
BF: Remember when they ate bugs and killed chickens
Silence as I vomit in my mouth
Me: Yeah I'll find a different way to help out
Moral of the story: I do care and everyone can help in their own way but I am a DQ and my bf knows me too well... I would have been grossed out by even the slightest smell and then felt bad for being grossed out and I know some will say that makes me a bitch but I counter with this: You try living with my sensitive nose AND trust me it is THAT sensitive and you wouldn't last either.
Scene: BF and I walking into Xmas Tree Shop on a FREEZING Saturday...
Me: I think I should volunteer or something
BF: Huh?
Me: Well you know, yesterday it was so freaking cold out and I had to wait for the bus an extra 30 minutes due to traffic and an accident and I didn't have my scarf... just gloves and it was so freaking cold.
BF interrupting: And you had your coat
Me: Um yeah obviously. Anyway I seriously thought I'd have frostbite when I finally got home. And I didn't have my cell so I couldn't call you and it was so brutal.
Sidenote: Due to job change, I didn't have a cell for awhile and it was so annoying. But back to compassion
BF: Yeah so what does this have to do with volunteering?
Me: Yeah well I was thinking about how I was that cold but I was only out there for 30 minutes. Imagine homeless people. I don't know. I think I should volunteer at a soup kitchen or handing out blankets.
Its quiet for a few minutes... ok seconds... if it had been minutes I would have started talking again
BF: Um hun, don't take this the wrong way but I think you are meant to help people from afar.
Me: What does that mean? You think I can't be compassionate.
BF: Remember when we were in NY and you could smell every odor for blocks before me and you kept complaining about it.
Me: Yeah it was disgusting,I have a very sensitive nose.
BF: And remember how you get uncomfy if dirty people are near you
Me: Um yeah, it grosses me out. I mean come on, shower already
BF: Yeah homeless people don't have a place to shower and will probably smell. You won't last very long at all.
Quiet again...
Me: Yeah but remember the time after the kickball game when I took all the leftover food (company ordered for like 200 and 20 played) and I brought it to the homeless people by the Garden because a shelter wouldn't take it bc it was already opened
BF: Yes that was very nice of you and I know you care but you couldn't deal with any smells.
Me: But I care, I want to help.
BF: I know you do and you can. Fundraise, spread the word, collect goods, donate money, volunteer with kids- you love that stuff. But a soup kitchen, I think not.
Silence again...
Me: So I probably wouldn't last on that MTV show Exiled either
BF: Remember when they ate bugs and killed chickens
Silence as I vomit in my mouth
Me: Yeah I'll find a different way to help out
Moral of the story: I do care and everyone can help in their own way but I am a DQ and my bf knows me too well... I would have been grossed out by even the slightest smell and then felt bad for being grossed out and I know some will say that makes me a bitch but I counter with this: You try living with my sensitive nose AND trust me it is THAT sensitive and you wouldn't last either.
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