The text I never expected

Has being realistic condemned romance, optimism and even the pursuit of happiness??

Today, my sister (S1) called my boyfriend's (aka BF or RJ) cell because I didn't answer mine. It was on silent so I didn't hear it. I could hear her voice in a shrill as he picked up so I wasn't sure what to expect as he handed me the phone.

My sis "Did you get a text from mom?"
Me "Um my phone was off, let me look"
My sis "You're not going to believe it. What am I suppose to reply to this?"

OMG! And I don't use that loosely. The text read 'X gave me a ring. said i would think about it. what do u think? Y or N?

Um I'm at a loss. Not because X proposed. They have been dating for over 7 years. Not because I'm torn up about my parents; they are both 51 and divorced when I was 19. My Dad had a gf the same year and is now remarried (not to the first gf). So while I have issues from my parent's divorce which effect my own relationships, those issues have nothing to do with my loss of words. My sister continues...

"So I wrote back, sure if thats what you want. Then I called you. I don't know what to do in the situation. Are you going to take care of this?"
Me "Yeah. I'll text now and talk to her. I'm on it"
We hang up. I am still at a loss. I text my mom to call me and I turn my ringer on. My phone rings... its my other sister.

My sis "Did you get this text? Did we all get this text? Has she lost her mind? I mean I don't even know X that well but she's been dating him forever. What do I care as long as she is happy? What am I suppose to reply to this? Its not like her saying yes effects me or makes him our stepfather. This text is so weird. What if I texted her when B proposed? I don't care about marriage, if it makes her happy go for it? Did you get this text? Did S1?"
Me (still at a loss for words, which is highly unusual for me) "I didn't even know you got texts on your phone... um yeah we all got the text."
Sis 2 "Well?"
Me "Um just reply that she should do what makes her happy. she will appreciate that."
Sis 2 " Ok I'll reply now. B and I are going to laugh about this later"
Me "I think she just wanted us to know and not feel sidelined like when Dad remarried"
Sis 2 "yeah i guess but come on... this is weird"

I think I'm the only one who gets why my mom sent the texts. And I think that worries me the most. Even though my sisters were younger when the 'rents divorced, they have both married and have kids. Me... I'm in a happy relationship but it has its own issues (mainly different religions). Plus I'm almost 30 and in a different place than my sisters who were 19 and 23 when engaged. So I am a realist (and so is my mom)... are we matched well? are we financially compatible? do we agree on kids? where to live? things that are important to each of us (for me, its vacations every year!)? these are ?s I analyzed for RJ and I; they are all good but the religion question lurks overhead. So I take a deep breath and I text my mom

'Ok well 1. Deep breath 2. You overanalyze everything which is good n i do too 3. U have fun with him, he is good tp u, he puts up with ur bs and u with his so.'

'Unless u are morally opposed to it, its not necessarily a bad thing that a man adores u enough to want to make it official. But lets discuss and analyze so u'

'Feel better about whichever decision you make. So deep breaths and call me whenever. Love you!!'

As I wait for the call, I wonder.... has realism replaced romance. I discussed this with my BFF over dinner on Tuesday because we've both been broken hearted by the guys we thought would be the future Mr. DQ and Mr. BFF.... but we know the events saved us future heartache which would have been messier. And for me, the closed door opened a window to the best possible guy for me in the whole world and I can say that because RJ is not from the US, so I did search the world ;). And for my BFF, she is enjoying life more now than she ever has and the future Mr. BFF will find his way to her eventually but for now, she's having fun. So when the time comes for one of us to be proposed to.. will we be realistic and ruin the romance? I ask again, has romance fallen by the wayside because we worry too much about reality? maybe believing in a fairy tale every once in awhile isn't such a bad thing??

When mom called, X was with her, and I could tell from mom's voice (I know her way too well), she was going to say yes and she confirmed it after saying "Your texts made us laugh out loud, so typical of you" - she meant it in the best way. So congrats to mom and X.... best wishes for your own little fairy tale! As for me, keep your fingers crossed that I don't completely replace romance with realism!